"You know they're gay, right?"

We were waiting for our table on Valentine's evening when all of the sudden a voice I know says "You know they're gay, right?" as a young couple passed by us.  It was one of those moments with the children when you wish the floor would open up and swallow all five of you and the stroller whole. Poof! You're gone. Transported to anywhere but that moment when they opened their big mouth and let whatever thought ran through their tiny head pop right out of their mouth at the loudest volume they posses. When I didn't respond fast enough for her (I was probably still in shock from her lack of manners) she repeated the statement. And as best my memory serves the conversation went something like this.
Mom: Hush. We are in PUBLIC.
Her: But Mom. It's just that....
Mom: I said HUSH.
Her: Embarrassed Pouting Begins.
Mom: Christ says we are to love one another. We are to live peaceably with all men whenever possible. Do you think you are accomplishing either of those things by pointing your little finger at people and talking about them?
Her: no
Mom: You need to think about your words before they leave your mouth.

And trust me, there was more talk later....

Now I know there will be two camps of people reading this. And lots of folks will wonder what we teach our kids about alternative lifestyles. (Note: we consider alternative lifestyles to be a lot of things) And there's liable to be some fussing and mud slinging and nonsense like that, although I'd hope not. The truth is we don't go around talking about these things all the time. We talk about homework, softball, and bath times a lot more. We talk about the big issues when the need arises, probably like everyone else. So, when it came up with our oldest several years ago we talked about it, explained why we didn't believe it was God's plan for our lives, and showed her the scriptures that outline that. We didn't and don't say hateful things about gay people so her reaction to the couple at the restaurant surprised me, but it gave us the opportunity to reinforce something.

  • You don't have to approve of everyone's choices to live with them in peace side by side.

"A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another." John 13:34-35

"Make every effort to live in peace with all men and to be holy...." Hebrews 12:14

"Blessed are the peacemakers for they shall be called the children of God." Matthew 5:9

"If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone." Romans 12:18


How can others ever want to be near Christians if we cannot live out the verses above? Or better yet, why would anyone want to know a God if he is like a hateful, angry, bigoted Christian? These are the things we should ask ourselves. As people who profess to be his followers are we so in love with him that others see it. Always. Even if it makes us uncomfortable. Especially if it makes us uncomfortable. For God to use us we must be willing to live out those words, no matter what our upbringing or environment may have reinforced. Love one another. Live in Peace. He asks us to be these things because when lived out in the flesh they can bring people to him. All people. And that is what he wants. And that is all that really matters.